I found this on the Murder Victims’ Families for Reconciliation website recently:
Reconciliation means accepting that you cannot undo the murder but you can decide how you want to live afterwards.
We cannot undo the pain, the hurt, the trauma, the feeling that we got something we didn’t deserve or we didn’t get something we did deserve but we can make a decision–maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not for years. But we can decide. “Empower” is so overused, but those of us who work with hurting folk on a regular basis know how important it is to facilitate the opportunity to make decisions again in all aspects. We cannot make a decision for anyone–all we can do is make a decision to help. jg